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How often do you text a girl? Guys when you are getting to know a girl you like and you've already told each other that you care a lot about each other but aren't dating yet....how...... asked under Dating
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I feel like this might be a problem with me. I will usually build some really good attraction. I really don't wanna be too clingy so then invite a
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How often should you text/talk to someone you are dating? I hate talking on the phone, always have. I prefer to text. Even with texting, I dislike having long drawn out conversations if the topic isn't really...... asked under Dating
One of the biggest concerns when dating someone is whether you are communicating enough for the relationship to develop. There is no right or wrong answer regarding how much contact a couple should ...
Long story made short - she had friend in the area whose husband had passed away about a year ago (this is important in that it is a different dynamic than dating another divorcee) and she was about my age, and a single mom. she was actually very close friends with the parents of one of the boys in my daughter's class who is very good friends with my daughter. i know the parents, not well, but well enough to trust their judgment along with the teachers, so i was willing to accept the "setup". anyway, i gave the teacher my number and email and she was going to arrange an outing with the six of us (her and her husband, the other parents, the friend and me). that evening i had a call from the friend ... she introduced herself and just said, "look we're both adults, why go through all this arranging and setting up and i just thought we could talk and see where it goes." (not exact words, of course but you get the point, which is that she was very outgoing, and i really liked that). anyhow, we chatted for a good 20 minutes or so. i happened to be out with some friends that night so i had to let her go, otherwise i suspect we would have talked longer. we arranged to meet the next night at a local winery ... the date was fabulous, we had a few, but not too many drinks and the conversation was great ... not one single awkward moment of silence, and it was very relaxed and comfortable ... we even shared our meal (not in a "would you like to try mine" sort of way, but just naturally placed the plates between us and ate of each other's plates as though it was something we always did). we joked and teased a lot and we both laughed quite a bit and there was even some moderate flirting. i did find her quite attractive and i believe she did me as well. she knew a lot more about me than i did her as apparently her friends (the other parents) knew me much better than i thought they did and apparently had quite a few nice things to say about me (which was very flattering).So ... now the weekend has gone by and i have thought about her several times. in fact, i had another date friday night that had been previously scheduled and that poor girl didn't stand a chance because i was a little smitten with my date the previous night. i thought several times over the weekend of sending a cute or witty text just to say hi and let her know i was thinking about her and even thought of calling tonight, but everything i read tends to indicate that that shows signs of over-eagerness, and given that we already have a plan (she said she'll call me tuesday ... let's leave well enough alone, right?), but i am not much for games, yet alone rules and if i feel like calling, i should right? she's gone through a rough time over the last year (well we both have) and i get the sense that she's been out with a few "winners" lately and she is just looking for a good time at this point ... as am i. anyhow, i never called or texted her ... but i kind of feel like i should have. i don't want her to think i'm playing the "wait three days to call" game or anything like that, because my instinct is that she's not into that kind of thing. she is smart and confident and doesn't have time for games ... nor do i for that matter, yet i can't help but remain perplexed over what the right move is/was here. am i making this complicated or is that just how it is? the reality is i sincerely can't wait to hear from her and i am very excited for our next date, which is something i have not really experienced in long time. at the same time, i am so concerned with making a mistake that i did not act at all, which is very much against my nature. the weekend has lapsed now and there is no way i can call her tomorrow as i have too much going on work-wise, thus i am definitely waiting until tuesday at this point when she is supposed to call - did i make a good choice here?During the evening we made plans to get together the following week at a local bar, with bocce ball courts for a good competition since we both have competitive spirits. this, of course, was complete with lots of smack-talking about how we were going to kick each other's butts, etc. she was going out of town for the weekend with her kids and said she would call me the following tuesday so we could nail down our plans. the night ended with a nice kiss (which she initiated ... not because i didn't want to, but just because i don't kiss on a first date ... that's fine when you're 20 or so, in my mid-thirties, it just seems very unnecessary ... there'll be plenty of time for that sort of thing later, right?). i did follow up with a text message the next day, just letting her know how much i enjoyed the evening and that i was looking forward to getting together again next week. (i made slight joke apologizing for the text and juvenile it is.) she replied immediately that she thought my text was very sweet and she felt the same way and that is ok to text anytime.Now to address your specific situation, my core advice is to simply relax and pace yourself with respect to pursuing this hot new woman. the last thing you want to do is to scare her off by being too aggressive with respect to calling her. you sound like a high-level guy with an important career - and i know how that can be taxing of one's time ... which means that it is not like you have all the time in the world to sit around and think about calling her. you've probably got a thousand things going on, and you are used to paying the most attention to maybe the top five ... and somehow this new woman has crept into your top five action items. even though it may be counter-intuitive for you, i'd say your best bet for this particular woman is at first to not contact her more than once every three or four days ... again, just so you don't appear over-eager, and so that you do not scare her off.
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